One Month In

So, we are one month in to YOY. While some of us took off running, others are still trying to convince themselves that YOY is a good thing to do.

The day after we declared this year to be the YOY an unexpecting guy called my friend and asked her out, and of course she said yes. He was a young black professional, church going, and very respectful, but she was not all attracted to him. However, he showed her a great time out. Knowing that she was new to the area he took her around town and showed her parts of the DC Metro area she never seen. He was a perfect gentleman, but she swore he was a better match for me. Needless to say they still keep in contact and they even went out a few more times after that. But guys like him insprired the three strike rule: After three dates and their is no chemistry, it is fine to decline or turn them down! This friend also was taken to see Shrek 3. After she talked to a male coworker about YOY, the next day he asked her out to a movie over the weekend...I guess he knew she couldn't turn him down.

As for me, the first week of YOY I approached a handsome guy. He was sitting alone at a sports bar, and so I swallowed my pride and went to talk to him. Let me state that I NEVER APPROACH GUYS. We talked for a good 30 minutes and also exchanged numbers. No love connection has blossomed yet, but we still remain in contact. He would be a nice guy to bring home to Momma. About 3 weeks ago I met a guy, we'll call him S, and he is nothing I ever wanted. If it wasn't for the YOY I would of never given him the time of day. He has turned out to be a pretty nice guy...he calls when he says he is going to call and chillin at his apartment does not qualify as a date. I want our dates to mean more than free dinners and ice cream on Sunday nights...I want to like him. I am sure he'll appear more throughout the YOY. My most tragic Yes is a guy me and my friends like to call Toothis like Rufus...yall remember that Martin episode when Jerome tooth got stolen and he said "They trying get me for my gold toothis like Rufus"...well this player has a single gold tooth with a star in it. No, I didn't give him my number. My friend did. She believed my YOY was starting off too slow. Although he is on his way to a Ph.D, I can't get over his gold tooth having , do-rag sporting, newport smoking butt!

My other friends are less committed...one went out with a guy who wore a little blue t-shirt with a pocket, it was a wrap on him after he showed up in that...he was the inspiration for the YOHN...and the other one...good question...I really haven't heard much on her progress....maybe I'll inquire about her and let you all know!

But me, I am fully commited and ready to find love in unlikely people! I will keep you all posted!

The Year of Yes...What is it? How does it work? Why do it?

Inspired by Maria Dahvana Headly (check out her website http://www.theyearofyes.com/), a group of friends decided to embrace the Year of Yes (YOY). What does this mean? Well, for the next year we would have to date anyone who asks them. Like Headley's YOY, there was some exceptions. We said no to the drugged, drunken, perverted, and the cheaters. We wanted to open their minds (and possibly their hearts) to the short, fat, balding, skinny men that they always claimed that we were not into.
Being young, college educated, and Black twenty-something year old women in Washington, DC was difficult for these women. While the city is filled with Black men who flock to the city to pursue law degrees or work on The Hill, these men are also focused on their careers or busy attracting no good women who are solely interested in what kind of car they drove or what law firm they work at.In other words, the pickings are slim. So, instead of trying to snag the next big lawyer or doctor, we decided to open our eyes to the guys (who never were their "type") and go out on dates. We also vowed to introduce themselves to a new guy once a week. This gave us the opportunity to date guys who we were physically attracted to.
This is the blog of a group of friends dating, loving, and living in Washington, DC. Although the women just started their YOY in May 2007, there have been some exciting moments in just one short month! Some vocab you might need to know: YOY is year of the yes but it can also stand for a date with a guy, Yes is a guy that the women approach, and, my favorite, YOHN is the Year of Hell Nawll this is the guy you hate to go out with but have to. SO, enjoy the Blog...laugh and be inspired!!!!! Its all about finding love in unlikely people!!!!